Every morning, the usual call would begin with “what happened last night?” or “let me keep you updated.” Sylor was a very shy person when we first met, a dark green eyed, double face woman. Her way of getting noticed was mostly by portraying herself as a sweet girl. Soon enough she would be hanging around Louise. They both became very close and their friendship developed into an obsession. Nobody truly knows what their relationship was, but it went beyond being simply friendship for many years. They shared the same love for food and beer, soon the sweet reddish girl began to emerge in a world up to then unknown for her. After Louise moved away to continue her education, Sylor was in distress. A couple years of her life were spent following Louise around, becoming her shadow until it was time to move on. Sylor now in her early forty’s couldn’t assimilate the idea of being single and without her dear friend. Sylor had a rough romantic life, many times she tried to find the love of her life without luck. She dreamed about a rich and good looking guy that would help her get out of the penniless neighborhood where she has been living for a decade. Sylor signed up for some online dating websites, creating a profile without a picture because she felt very insecure about herself. Some of those online services require you to sign up for a minimum of three months. Her desire of finding her soul-mate went beyond comprehension. Every evening after work, she spent hours in front of her computer chatting with these guys. I remember the first time she called me to talk about the “hot guy” she had met online. And from there it all got started.
Sylor-“Hola amiga” I met this good looking guy last night, do you want to hear about it?
Abby-Sure, whats up? How are you?
Sylor-Doing well, super excited. I love the way this guy talks to me.
Abby- Whats his name?
Sylor- I can’t tell you that just yet, but he is good looking with a great job and wants to get married
Abby-When did you meet this guy? What does he do for a living?
Sylor-I met him last night but it feels as if we have known each other for years. We chat all night…I am so tired today. Oh and he works for the FBI. He is well educated, I think he has a PhD! I am so excited. We are going out this Friday night, and i cant wait to see him…
Abby-Take it easy tiger, you should take your time before meeting this guy
Sylor- No worries, I know in my heart this is the one I have been waiting for….
Abby- Hmmm and how old is this guy?
Sylor- He is in his late thirties and he is very passionate about his job, but he can’t share much about it with me…it is not allowed
Abby- So, he has never been married? be careful, I hope you like him when you guys meet in person
Sylor- Of course I will, I am telling you. This is the man of my dreams, he is hot, he is handsome, great personality and he has a great career
Next morning, Abby was finishing her coffee when Sylor called again…this morning a little bit earlier than usual
Sylor-Hi Abby, guess what? Oh my poor honey and I were talking last night and he sounded a little bit concerned so I asked if there was something he needed to share
Abby-Oh hi girl, whats up?
Sylor- My honey had some issues with his credit card, I didn’t quite understood what happened but I know he is worried. His rent is due today and he needs to pay it right away. I told him not to worry about it. I will send some money to money gram and he should be able to pay it on time…its ok, soon we will be married so he doesn’t need to worry about paying me back
Abby-But Sylor, you don’t know this guy yet
Sylor-Oh yes I do, we met online and we have been chatting for a couple of days now plus we are meeting Friday. Don’t worry girl, I am gonna be fine. He is the one. I am telling you. He is hot..oh and when we chat, all he says is to want to meet me and cuddle with me… You know what I mean hehehe.
Abby-I don’t know Sylor, I think you are going too fast. Slow down a little bit
Sylor-I will be fine, he is a gentleman and for sure he is “the one” there is nothing to worry about
Friday arrived and Sylor sent Abby a picture she took in the morning…she had done her makeup, had heels on and was wearing a cute top that helped hide her extra pounds nicely
Abby-Called Sylor, big day today, huh!
Sylor-Of course, I am meeting Charlie tonight and I cannot wait. I am very nervous; I haven’t been with a man in a long time
Abby-Sylor, oh so thats his name? hmm well, you guys are just meeting today… Calm down
Sylor-Oh you know there is more that will happen tonight after the meeting
Abby-Well good luck Sylor, I hope he is the one.
Around 4 pm Sylor called Abby again, this time she was inconsolable, a few minutes earlier Charlie had called Sylon to let her know that they wouldn’t be able to meet that night after all…
Abby-Hi Sylor, everything ok?
Sylor-Not really, Charlie has to work overtime today and we won’t be able to meet as we intended
Abby-Don’t worry, tomorrow is Saturday and maybe you guys can meet up
Sylor-No Abby, I suggested that, but Charlie is a very busy guy. He plans his work schedule during the weekends so we won’t be able to meet until next week…
Abby-Come on Sylor, its all good..you guys can meet next week
Sylor- You are right Abby, it gives me a few more days to stay on this diet that I started Monday. I need to lose some weight before meeting him. I want to look my best
Abby-Good job Sylor, don’t let this little hiccup get to you…
Abby-But if you really want to meet someone, I have a friend who is a waiter in a four star restaurant. He is a really nice guy…
Sylor-I don’t date waiters! These guys I meet are all professionals….
Abby-Well it seems like they are all down on their luck though…at least that’s my impression of Charlie…think about it Sylor, there are good men out there like my friend..
Sylor-Thanks Abby but I will pass, I want to marry a rich guy with a higher education not a waiter for God’s sake…
Abby-Sylor my friend has a degree in hotel and restaurant management from a leading university, he just works as a waiter because he makes good money and he enjoys it
Sylor-Well, I am not interested, but thanks anyway…
And time passed… After Charlie, it was James, Joseph, and others….They all played with Sylor’s feelings and they were all looking for money, for someone to pay for their bills. I have heard many stories like this one and i asked myself? why do women fall for the wrong guys? We might never know why, or maybe there are many answers to this question. The reality is that perhaps our hopes are greater than reality…. Maybe because we want to believe in them? i am not sure, but what i am sure about is that we “women” should not allow men or anyone to play with our feelings. We deserve to love and to be loved, to be respected….We women are very valuable. The lesson here was that we need to love ourselves first, look inside of you and find that you are beautiful, that you are worth it of all the great things life has to offer. You deserve the best and once you realize that everything else would fall into place…and then love will find you.